“Glory To The Lamb Jesus”/Introduction to “How To Have A Good Marriage”

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Introduction to “How To Have A Good Marriage”

I have to be honest and say, “I don’t really know how to have a good marriage.”  I have tried and failed. Here lately I have been under the impression that people were not happy in their marriages, and quite a few people aren’t; but I do know many Christian Couples that are successful in making their marriages work, and I am encouraged that a successful Marriage might even be possible for me.  As Christians we know that God Has Consecrated The Act of Marriage Between Man and Woman that man might not be “sexually immoral.”  

St. Paul writes in  1 Corinthians 7:8) Now to the unmarried and widows I say:  it is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.  9) But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn.  NIV.  John Gill’s Exposition Of The Bible – v8, I say therefore to the unmarried and widows  Not by way of command, but advice: by the “unmarried” he means, either such men who never were in a married state, or else such who had been married, but their wives were dead; which latter sense seems more agreeable, since they are joined with “widows”, who had lost their husbands:  it is good for them if they abide;  (stay) unmarried, and do not change their condition any more; not that it was sinful to marry again, for he allows of it in the next verse, in case they have not the gift of continence (self-restraint); and therefore “good” here, is not opposed to evil, only signifies that it would be better for them, more expedient and profitable for them; they would be more free from the cares of life, have less trouble, and be more at leisure to serve the Lord; and which he knew by experience, and therefore, proposes himself as an example:  even as I;  that is, as he was then; for at that time it seems certain that he had no wife; though whether he had had one, and she was now dead, or whether he had never been married, may be matter of dispute; the former seems most agreeable, since he proposes himself as an example to widowers and widows; and having known what a married and single state both were, was better able to give his judgment of both, and proper advice to such persons which must come with more force and strength, and a better grace, from such an one.  v9, But if they cannot contain  Or “if they do not contain”, as the words may be rendered, and as almost all versions do render them; if they have not the gift of continency; if they are not willing, and do not think fit to contain, for none are to be compelled; if either therefore they want a will or power to contain, let them marry; it is not only lawful for them to marry, but it is right and best for them; hence it appears that second marriages are lawful, which were condemned by some of the ancients: for it is better to marry than to burn; or be burnt; not with material fire, as Judah ordered Tamar to be brought forth and burnt with, for whoredom; nor with hell fire, the just demerit of uncleanness; but with the fire of lust itself; and so the Syriac version reads it, “it is better to marry than to be burnt” (atgrb) , “with lust”; when persons not only find in them some lustful motions and desires, and a glowing heat of concupiscence (strong sexual desire); but are as it were all on fire with the lusts of the flesh, and in great danger of being drawn into the commission of fornication, adultery, or other pollutions, and even unnatural lusts; it is much better to enter into a marriage state, though it may have its cares, inconveniences, and difficulties, than to be under temptations and inclinations to such defilements:  and that for the very reason the Apostle here gives. The Ethiopic version reads, “it is better to marry than to commit fornication”; that and adultery both are expressed by fire and burning, with the Jews, as they prove from ( Hosea 7:4 ) ( Song of Solomon 8:6 ) F12     


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